Look what I found today on the newsfeed…
The caption? “Repost to inspire Moms!”
Some idiot I made the mistake of friending posted it today with all his buddies drooling and commenting. Let’s think about this for a minute. Is this really inspiring to women?
How does this photo…
- Inspire the women that can’t figure out how to lose baby weight?
- Fight through post-partum depression with weight gaining medication?
- Deal with children who require more time and attention than the average child?
- The single mother who can’t afford a sitter to work out?
- The mother with hypo-thyroidism?
- The Mom who will never be a size 0 no matter how hard she works out?
- The mother who didn’t start out with an incredibly fit body?
I can’t stand it. I have nothing against her at all. I’m glad she’s happy. But…
I immediately defriended this guy. Nothing gets my blood boiling more than men who drool over hot Moms, as if somehow she is more beautiful than a Mom with curves, baby fat, and cellulite.
If she is happy and proud of herself- that’s great. My point isn’t to minimize her success. But why does it have to insinuate that every fat mom in America is simply making up excuses? This photo is obnoxious, condescending, and insulting to women.
Can you imagine if this were a photo of a Dad with three kids? You’d never see it, because our society doesn’t demand bodily perfection of Dads the way it does of Moms.
More than likely, this photo will induce the opposite of inspiration. For a few, it’ll get them all geared up to exercise and diet and contort themselves into a shape the world approves of, but for most- it will cause envy, jealously, fake “Good jobs!”, self-hatred, depression, sadness, regret, and yo-yo dieting.
How is the woman pictured above more inspiring than this woman right here? She’s not in a baby perfect body, but she is just as much as a woman as the petite size 0 with a 6 pack of abs.
*Edited to add: A commenter added a photo to the comments section that I thought was very cool..
Edited to add:
This post continues to get a lot of feedback. Please, leave your comments free of links. Say what you need to say, but stop putting links in the comments. Thank you.